Some things are just hard to swallow.
Life changes. It happens whether we are prepared or not. It happens with or without our permission. It happens.
I spent some time today with a friend who has just been told she will no longer be able to live in her apartment and must stay at the long term care facility. This is probably one of the most difficult decisions her family will ever make and for her to adjust to. Being safe is the most important thing when one is facing health issues and no longer being independent is one of the greatest fears.
One of the most important lessons I learned from caregiving has been to prepare the best I could for the possibilities of dependence on others. Because I am making decisions now, for myself, I believe it will lesson the difficulties for my children later on. They will be placed in a position of parenting me and I know that will be a challenge. I am pretty easy going, but I am stubborn. God has had to prepare me so that I go into situations willingly, not being drug by someone else.
If you are having to make difficult choices for someone who was always the one in charge, take stock of where you are. If they can help you find a livable answer, please include them. If they cannot, do the best you can with the information you have. Ask God to make up the difference and He will.
You don't have to face these choices by yourself. He cares and He will give you the guidance you need.
Once you have an answer, put it in motion. Take a deep breath and know you have done your best to help your loved one swallow that horse pill.
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