For me, the elephant in the room is fatigue. My caregiving experience ended some time ago, yet the emotional impact of that time period has carried into the present. It doesn't matter how much I loved those I cared for, it doesn't matter how much time has passed, the ghost of those feelings rise up and I find myself back in the moment.
What is my initial reaction?
Hibernation.
The easy thing to do is retreat into my room and avoid interaction. AVOID people.
The solution is to fight that reaction.
I wish I had recognized what being really tired and emotionally wrung out would bring to the future. I think that is why I try to find ways to help those who are caregivers now.
Recognize early when you are becoming depleted physically, emotionally and spiritually. Ask early on that your support group notice when it is showing in your personality. Seek help from those who love you and are close. It is possible that they have no idea that you need help. We become really good actresses and actors while trying to do everything ourselves.
I point you to Jeremiah 29:11 every chance I get. God's plan for us is to prosper. We can only do our job well when we are healthy.
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